Tuesday, 22 April 2014

Something Other than Pyjamas

I've been having a bit of a relapse within a relapse these past couple of weeks, mostly in bed, trying to save up some energy to get a few things done.  With the help of my ever supportive mother, who often drives me around when I can't manage it, I had the opportunity to put on some real clothes and get out to face the world.  The weather has been more ugly than not, so I was aiming for stylish comfort, warmth but not winterish. 

Taking photos helps me see myself better than mirrors do and I am learning, though slowly, to stop drowning myself in clothes that are too big.  I am also realising that I am going to have to get some tops tailored to fit better because I have to buy XL to fit my bust but then it is usually too baggy elsewhere.  It's with tee shirts that this is the most challenging because they are not actually something one takes for tailoring and yet I love a long sleeved and colourful tee shirt.  Heck I even love short sleeved ones.  I wear them a lot but do have troubles with fit.  I can get them, I prefer styles that are a bit fitted and not just a big square. 

So, I realise that my beloved colourful hoodie and the tee shirt I am wearing underneath are a bit too big for me.  Actually the skirt is a size too big too, but that is more easily disguised by just wearing it lower on my hips.  I wear this skirt a lot as it is my favourite style and I love jersey fabric.  I would like a whole closet full of these in different colours and prints but I'm not particularly good with sewing stretchy fabric.
 The weird blurr in the corner is clearly my goofy cat.  I think her tail is caught under my skirt.


 Also thanks to my wonderful mother, I had another chance to shower and dress, because she made a lovely dinner on the weekend and invited my son and myself over to assist with the devouring of it.  I had an outfit all picked out but it turned out to be too cold to wear it.  The shoes are not as dark as they look in this photo.  My bare legs were much too cold and I only have opaque black or brown tights so I had to change out of this outfit and that lead to a maxi skirt experiment.  I was able to wear thick leggings under the maxi skirt so I was much warmer.  It is more of my much loved jersey fabric, which is really like wearing sweatpants only pretending to be more glamourous in a skirt.






And the pixie is growing....  Hooray!



38 comments:

  1. I am growing my pixie, too. Isn't it the worst? You look great in all three looks. Hopefully, it will warm up enough for you to wear that cute watercolor-y skirt without tights, soon!

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  2. Thanks, I was just dying to wear that pretty skirt but maybe in a few more weeks. I have grown out a pixie many times in my life. You would think I'd learn my lesson but no I still go ahead and cut it again every few years. So we are in a pixie race! LOL I look forward to seeing how you style yours as it grows. I'm kind of entering poufy bowl stage which is scary.

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  3. You look wonderful Shawna! Love the skirt in the second photo, and the colours of the cardi in the third photo compliments the grey skirt beautifully. Oh you have great legs too! XO.

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    1. Thanks, Elsie! I wish my legs were actually as flawless looking as they appear in photos. They definitely aren't but then that's because I'm a real person not a mannequin!

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    2. The thing to remember about photos is they are taken at about the distance that other people stand from you. So people really do get that flawless impression!

      (I realized some time ago that many people don't notice my acne scars, when that's the only thing I see when I'm applying makeup.)

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    3. I like that thought! I think you are right that people don't notice all the little flaws we find in ourselves or even if they do see them they don't matter to the overall impression. You are very pretty and your face is full of warmth and personality. I'm sure that's what people see, not scars.
      xo

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  4. I straightened my hair last summer with the idea of wearing a pixie cut, but a became annoyed with the straightening and maintenance and quickly cut it back off, and let it go natural again.

    Shawna, you look great is shorter lengths!

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    1. I really think we should all do natural hair as straightening and curling do so much damage though it's easy for me to say that as I am hopeless with a curling or straightening iron. I like short natural hair on you and I think it is fantastic that you wear it that way. It bothers me when women with naturally kinky hair feel that it is not acceptable to wear it natural, whether they impose that on themselves or their environment does.

      I am aiming for a layered bob and then I'm not sure where I will go from there. I definitely want easy hair. I am a wash and wear sort of woman and I would like to have my ears covered and thus warmer in winter. ;-)

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  5. I have to agree with the others- you look great in that short skirt. Come on, warm weather!

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    1. Please shout that a little louder as I don't think the weather gods heard you.
      xo

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  6. Totally agree with the hatred of the growing out. I have to have mine thinned, and as it grows out my head starts to look square! I love that gorgeous sweatshirt! It's hard to find fitting shirts. I have difficulty with long arms and no bust ...opposite to your problem! You look pretty gorgeous in all the looks. But I felt your cold legs shivering after your story. How lovely to have family near, and your Mum sounds like a darling. Hope this relapse within a relapse is very short lived. All the best, Jazz

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    1. I sometimes have to thin my hair too. I get ear muffs at a certain length. My hair is very fine but there is a lot of it.

      I don't think my arms are long for my size, but because I am taller everything on me is generally bigger than average so arms and legs are longer too. It does make it a challenge but I usually wear my sleeves pushed or rolled up anyhow. This sweatshirt has excessively long sleeves.

      Thanks for the well wishes, I'm doing a bit better today. :D

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  7. Sorry to hear that you weren't feeling well, Shawna, but look you were really busy too. So nice that your family lives nearby, and your Mum is just a sweetie! Hugses to her for taking such a good care of our friend.

    That pretty little skirt is so cute, and in your favorite teal too, which suits you so wonderfully! I am sure we'll see this skirt a lot this Spring/Summer. I love that arty design, and I got a skirt with a similar coloring/feel too (thrift shop of course)... And oh, those gorgeous legs need to be shown a lot more often! :)

    I really, really like the outfit you ended up wearing for dinner with yours (I bet it was a tasty one!). You look so comfortable with yourself, so relaxed in it, and even though it's a more casual outfit than the shorter skirt would be, you still look very beautiful and elegant. Which is a great mix for a family dinner I think.

    I happened to stumble into quite a few brown things while thrifting. I'll show one of the skirts I bought soon. :) Brown was "in" a few years back, around 2006-7 I believe, and those items are all over Goodwill these days... I still regret I did not buy one pretty corduroy brown jacket with lovely flower embroidery... mmm... you'd probably like it too! But sometimes I start thinking like "just how many more jackets I need?" Now, that is a very, very wrong kinda thinking and it has to stop! ;)))

    Hugses to you.

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    1. I had a bout of that wrong thinking too, and decided not to get a cute little brown suede jacket. I love the idea of brown cordoury with embroidery. If we lived closer we could raid each other's closets! Now that would be fun for me but maybe not as fun for you. I'm still working on improving mine.

      The outfit I wore for dinner was my first time in a jersey maxi and I wasn't sure if it was working for me but apparently it was. Mum liked it and the feedback on the blog is positive so I guess I am safe to wear it again! I made it less elegant by wearing leggings under it for warmth and taking a pair of wooly socks with me to mum and dad's. But then I am usually curled up in a big armchair when I'm there so it's pretty relaxed anyhow.
      xo

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  8. I love your pixie! And yours is growing out very nicely, so much better than mine! I was contemplating killing mine with fire :D
    Surprisingly I buy lots of oversize clothes, so I know what you mean :D Love the hoodie though, it's my favorite from all of your pieces *_*

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    1. I loved my pixie too but my head got cold and I also got sort of worried that given my larger body I may need more hair to balance it out. Fear of being a pinhead. Your hair looks great but it must have taken several months to get to that point after the pixie cut. I estimate eight months from pixie to bob and your bob is much longer now.

      The oversized clothes work on you because you are so slender. You can do that waif look. I honestly don't mind looking a bit sloppy in something oversized but sometimes I miss the mark and it just makes me look bigger.
      I love that hoodie too and I think I can get another one. I bought it in a local shop that sells things handmade from Nepal by women's groups. Since mine is getting faded and has a couple of holes I think that's a very good reason to get a new one, don't you? When I wore that hoodie to school my students used to call me Mrs. McCool or Mrs. McFunky. :D

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  9. Hooray for helpful Mums … I think all three outfits look great on you.
    xx

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    1. Thank you! All three outfits are certainly well within my comfort zone. My mother deserves a medal for perfect mothering.
      xo

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  10. you look gorgeous in all 3 outfits!
    although the short skirted one is less balanced proportion wise.....you can see it in the photo - top and bottom have the same optical scale - better is to have one CLEARLY bigger/smaller then the other - length wise or in volume.
    but the cool blue colors are always a win on you. i would wear the printed cardi (love printed cardigans) with the short printed skirt - that would be fun!
    with the sizing i have the same problem, broad shoulders, ample bosom. i gave up on bought t-sirts years ago. (except russian navy t´s) some rtw blouses are ok., but mostly i wear home sewn tops. interestingly they have only a bust dart, otherwise they are just rectangles - but it works! most of them i made in soft woven fabric like silk, viscose, thin cotton, blouse weight wool (for winter). with straight bottoms i wear them out, with my full skirts tucked in (or not if i have a "belly day")
    and not all garments have to be fitted - the beloved colorful hoodie is perfect how it is because the whole wit is in the "non-fitting", unusual style of it :-)

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    1. I agree with you about the proportion thing, only I don't yet own something that works with the skirt that is longer. It's on the list of things to find. Well I do own one thing, my jumbo teal sweater, but that's for winter. I need a teal tunic. There is a little bit of dusky mauve in the skirt too and I would love to pick that out more. Purple is my favourite colour, after all. Teal and purple is one of my favourite combinations.

      I definitely need blouses with darts but they don't seem to make those too often unless it is a very fitted classic shirt style and I don't wear that style.
      A bust dart makes a huge difference. I was just discussing that with mum the other day. But it's too much trouble for the makers of rtw.

      My fantasy wardrobe is all soft and drapped but semi fitted and body skimming, natural and breathable fibres with lots of greens, blues and purples. If I sewed that is what I would create.

      The hoodie does at least have something of a fitted shape, it is not a box, and I love the long bell sleeves and the oversized drape of the hood. I am highly tempted to get another one. I bought mine several years ago but I think the local shop still stocks them. It's funny, I have never seen anyone else in town wearing one but I get compliments from strangers when I wear mine.
      xo

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  11. One of the first things I noticed when I started blogging was the fit issues. It's something that makes or brakes an outfit. I also think you should wear shorter skirts as you have great legs!

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    1. Thank you for thinking I have great legs! I think they might be blindingly pale but I'm going to go with that as my signature look. ;-)

      It's amazing how helpful photos are and blogging encourages the taking of them, that's for sure.

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  12. Our weather sucks now too. A few days ago it was 22. Today it is -1 with the windchill. It is almost MAY!!! yeesh.

    I'm digging your footwear here. It looks both stylish and comfy.

    It is a shame you couldn't wear the blue outfit as you'd styled it originally. That is my favourite.

    bisous
    Suzanne

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    1. We get teased with something warm and sunny once in awhile too and then back to the cold and grey. I am still very seriously considering the benefits of nude tights, but on the other hand I usually get a run in them on the first wearing and that's such a waste of money.

      I was so excited to have paired a soft teal and mauve scarf with that skirt and quite disappointed that it was too cold to wear the outfit. I could have managed it with nude tights and certainly my parents are not going to look at my nude tights clad legs and say, oh she is so not stylish for wearing those! LOL
      xo

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  13. I am so glad to know we both love akirts so much.
    One of my daughter wont wear shirt everrrrrrrrrrrrr
    lOl
    Gorgeousssssssssssssss

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    1. I love dresses too but it is more difficult to get a good fit. Being taller, I am proportionately longer everywhere and often the waistline of the dress hits me too high up and the skirt can be too short too. If I get a decent fit I sometimes wear a dress as a tunic.

      I grew up with a mother who wore skirts even though none of her peers did, and she also sewed so she made clothes for both of us. I am not a sewer though I wish I were. I don't have the energy to take it on and I don't really like doing it so it would be quite a chore.
      xo

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  14. Your Mum sounds fantastic, what a great Mum you have! - I do like all of your outfits, and I understand the fitting issue, especially with a bust, my dresses all fit my boobs and nowhere else really, but I don't mind as I do like a looser fit - and hooray for a growing out pixie cut, your hair looks great x x x

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  15. Hi Shawna, how lovely go have your mum nearby to help you out. I like all these outfits and the blue of the plain cardi looks really good on you, Taking photos of different outfits really helps you to see yourself differently doesn't it. Not sure why that is. Good reason to chuck out some items of clothing and replace them with better ones though.

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    1. I love your reasoning Jayne! I'm rather fond of wearing teal blue and I seem to end up with a lot of it in my closet in addition to navy. I'm trying to branch out a bit.
      I am very lucky to have such a wonderful mum nearby and we are very close emotionally too which is nice. We are good friends.

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  16. Sorry to hear that your health has been more problematic recently, Shawna, but it's good to know your mum is supportive. She sounds lovely.
    I agree about photos telling a different story compared with the mirror; it's very odd to review pics taken for the blog and sometimes make a completely different assessment of an outfit than I did when I looked at my reflection! But it all helps. I know that loose/baggy/oversized clothing does not really flatter my shape, and I am more careful about fit.
    I always like to see you flashing those fabulous pins of yours in a shorter skirt, but that said, the maxi is gorgeous on you! They are great for layering up underneath for warmth too! xxx

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    1. Thanks, Curtise. I will be okay, I always am. It just gets a bit annoying but I try not to moan about it too much. My mum is the first ever atheist saint.
      I now actually use my camera to assess an outfit even if I don't intend to post it. Should I admit to that publicly? LOL
      Technically I know that loose and baggy does not flatter me but I think I have been trying to hide in it. I am learning not to. I realise that other people tell me I have a nice figure but I have never seen it that way myself. I'm improving though and perhaps seeing myself more realistically. Such support and encouragement from all my new blogging friends is so wonderful. Suzanne is right, she said on her recent post that compliments from women mean more to her and I am inclined to think so too.
      xo

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  17. Interestingly, when my sister had anorexia and had to go to a special unithe first thing they do is take a picture of them in a bikini. It helps them see themselves accurately, whereas the mirror somehow gives a distorted view. She found it very helpful.

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    1. That is interesting! Mirrors are not all accurate either, particularly if they are cheaply made. I wonder if there is psychology behind that, wherein the patient has been viewing herself in the mirror and inaccurately assessing the image for a long time so simply a different presentation can help her see differently.

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  18. I think blogger ate my comment! I'm sorry you're struggling with your health but happy you've got an awesome mother to help you out.
    Yes, mirrors can be very deceptive, mine are all ancient and quite foxed so its a bit of a shock if I catch sight of myself in a well-lit pub toilet!
    All your outfits look good. x

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  19. Don't you hate when you pick out something to wear and the weather doesn't cooperate? Too cold here, too, to wear the things I'm wanting to wear. Warm will grace us soon--hopefully! T. http://tickledpinkwoman.blogspot.com

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    1. It's finally getting warmer here too though we will still have cold days. I will probably start picking outfits with sweaters and grumbling that I can't wear those! LOL

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  20. That hoodie is gorgeous! I don't think it looks too bulky; it looks like it has a nice feminine shape.

    Taking in t-shirts is one of the easiest sewing jobs. I take in a lot of my knit shirts at the waist because I have to size up for my shoulders. If you'd like to try it with a scrap shirt, I'd be happy to offer any online assistance!

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  21. I just bought another hoodie like it because this one is several years old and has a few holes. I bought a size smaller and it does fit me better but I will still wear this one with more casual outfits.

    Thanks for your really kind offer of help. I just might give it a try, though I have recently managed to get some better fitting tee shirts and should perhaps relegate my baggier ones to being worn under things. I do need to pay attention to tee shirts and look for one that have a bit of a feminine shape to them but there is still usually the issue of needing a bigger size for my bust and then the rest being too big. I actually wish my shoulders were wider as it seems everything is always sliding off them.
    xo

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